Finding Happiness
Life is an endless journey to find Happiness and everything we do is to ultimately be happy, but what is happiness and how do we achieve it? As humans, our tendency is to move away from pain and toward pleasure, and as individuals, our perceptions of pain and pleasure differ. What makes you happy may not be the same for someone else. Whatever you are doing is because you think it will make you happy e.g., the new house, car, clothes, relationships, etc. there is a constant struggle to achieve our happiness.
In our endeavor towards happiness, we come across times when we face challenges, worries, stress, anxiety, anger, sadness, and even fear. These obstacles, challenges or hardships can be very confronting and take their toll on us and we often feel overwhelmed and struggle to find any happiness. To free ourselves and find inner peace and happiness we need to understand how and why it’s all happening.
We need to become aware that everything is energy in motion and that includes our bodies, thoughts, feelings, words, and actions. The way we operate is based on the way we perceive life, ourselves, and others. This means what we experience in our external world is based on the beliefs we are projecting and manifesting as our reality. If we know this, it makes sense to change our beliefs to perceive a different world.
The way we do this is to go within and change what we think of ourselves and others and what we believe is happening to us. So, if we know our internal energy is creating our external experience it then makes sense to take control and change what we think and feel and stay in a state of inner peace and happiness to create a different external world. This seems easier said than done but it can be done by becoming mindful of the present moment and not looking at what is happening but rather staying in a space of inner peace and happiness throughout what’s happening. This requires us to be accepting and allowing of whatever situation arises and trusting it’s all happening for our highest good
We do this by checking if it’s something we can control and if so, we do what we can about it. If it is out of our control, it means it’s not ours to fix so we can acknowledge we don’t like it and it doesn’t feel good, but we allow it knowing it’s for our highest good and will work itself out if we allow it without interference but with trust and patience. We then need to really let it go and trust it will be taken care of, because we always have been.
From this point, we need to choose to stay in the present moment and in a state of inner peace, happiness, and gratitude for what we do have. Happiness is not about getting, it’s about giving, and random acts of kindness are a great way of helping others and feeling good, which will attract more of this feeling in ways you can’t imagine.
The Paradox of a Parent-Child Relationship – Who’s Responsibility is it to Change?
By Manya Monga.
As parents, we often expect our kids to be a certain way or behave in a certain way and no matter how hard we try, we often expect them to change into something we want them to become.
We forget that they are unique beings and special in their own way. Most of the time, parents’ expectations of their children are a reflection of their own fear and guilt.
Some examples of unrealistic expectations that parents have for their kids are:
- To be perfect at school and at home
- To never make mistakes
- To take part in competitions even if they don’t want to
- To do everything we ask them to do without asking questions
- To achieve targets set by others
- To do better than others
Why should we ask parents to focus on the above, when, instead we can teach them ways to be:
- Kind
- Grateful
- Cheerful
- Respectful
And value what we already have such as:
- Family
- Friends
- Relationships
- Truth
- Honesty
We can also teach them to find happiness and celebrate the little things in life and appreciate what we have rather than focusing on unreasonable expectations.
We may think we are doing this for our child’s higher good or a brighter future but what we fail to understand is that it’s not our job to push them into things we want for them. It is our sole responsibility as parents to show them various options and guide them through, in case they need our help. We need to encourage them to take decisions for themselves. They may fail or fall down but we must support them to get back up and learn and move ahead.
Tips to Raise a Resilient Child with Strong Coping Skills
- Support your child
- Educate them that change is normal
- Model for them to observe and learn from you
- Teach them to be optimistic and grateful
- Encourage them to take ownership of their decisions
Putting pressure on kids may result in low self-esteem and low self-confidence as they will constantly feel they haven’t achieved enough. And in this process of trying to achieve more and more, kids lose their individuality, and personalities change due to our actions and behaviors.
Tips to Raise a Confident Child with High Self-Esteem
We can build confidence in our children by telling them:
- You are unique
- You are imperfectly perfect
- Keep going and keep trying
- Accept and celebrate the way you are
Hence, it can be rightly said that in the parent-child relationship, the major responsibility to change is with the parent.
Kids are like clay and can be molded in any way we want. Keeping in mind that they are unique individuals and showing them love, the more we appreciate how wonderful and unique they are in their own special way, and the more they will bloom and become the best versions of themselves.
And that is the best gift we can give to our children.
The Benefits of Gratitude
By Jane Elizabeth.
Gratitude is like a magnet, the more grateful you are the more you will receive to be grateful for, and the same goes for the more you complain. The more you complain the more you will have things to complain about.
Gratitude may be one of the most overlooked superpowers that we have access to every day. People who regularly practise gratitude for the things in their life are more likely to be happier overall, leading to reduced stress and anxiety. Practising gratitude doesn’t take much time at all, and the benefits are amazing. While it can be hard to find gratitude in difficult times, acknowledging what we have, no matter how small, is an important thing to do in our daily routines.
A really good exercise I recommend is to keep a daily gratitude journal, listing the things you’re grateful for. A good time to do this is before sleep, no matter how good or bad your day has been. Start with simple things, like having a bed to sleep in, food, water, education, career, salary, friends, family, your pet, or even something as simple as sunshine in your day. Think about what you can be grateful for.
Helping children to understand that gratitude is more than just saying “thank you”
Gratitude can come in various forms, and thanking people directly can not only form ongoing relationships but can also make someone feel like they truly matter, and this expression of gratitude energetically will create more value and matter in your own world.
Gratitude is something that can be taught to children and has many incredible benefits for them. It enables children to have the ability to feel positive in their own lives. It can also lead to promoting family bonds within the family unit.
To open this communication with your child, start by asking what they know about gratitude, and find out what it means to them. A big part of this is helping children understand that gratitude is more than just saying “thank you.”
Show your child what it means to pause and appreciate the things we take for granted, such as: “I am grateful for my teachers,” “I am grateful for mum and dad/family friends,” “I am grateful for my favourite food,” “I am grateful for my favourite toy.”
Another impactful gratitude exercise is to create a gratitude box. Personalize it to suit you, and each day try to add a couple of notes containing things that you are grateful for.
Whenever you experience one of those days when you are feeling low, you can reach for your gratitude box and remind yourself of the good things in your life.
Gratitude meditations are an amazing way to start your journey toward your overall wellbeing
As you go along following the above-mentioned exercises and taking a timeout in your day to give gratitude, no matter how big or small, you will find that your mind automatically starts to feel grateful for the smaller things in life and this will lead to you feeling happier and more content.
Gratitude meditations are an amazing way to start your journey toward your overall well-being because it enables you to perform two of the most powerful happiness practices at the same time.
If you are ready to start your gratitude journey please check out Miracles Dubai’s upcoming meditations and join us in giving thanks and allowing happiness and ease to flow into your life.
To find out about upcoming events, contact Miracles – Self Empowerment & Wellness Center Dubai, UAE.
Join Me for Message of the Day … Direct from the Universe
Allow me to introduce myself. My name is Jane Elizabeth, a Transformational Coach and Energy Healer (Reiki Master and Teacher). But what does this actually mean and what do I do?
In essence, I am very tuned in to my intuition, working predominantly with clients suffering from stress, anxiety, fears and phobias. Using my intuition I can very easily establish the root cause of the problem causing these issues, and from there decide which healing therapy I will use. This approach has led me to have a high success rate with clients, and I get most work from word of mouth.
Here, though, I want to introduce to you my latest project, Message of the Day on Miracles Instagram. It has only been up and running for a week, but so far has proved extremely popular, with messages being delivered to you from the Universe using my cards as a catalyst. My intuition directs me to the topics I should cover alongside which meditation I should do afterwards should anyone wish to stay on for it, which they often do.
People have been asking me how the message can be relevant to everyone. I did wonder this myself, and when I tuned into the Universe I got the answer: “It is quite simple; the Law of Attraction guides people who need this message to be tuned in. They may, for instance, see it just pop up on Instagram, supposedly by accident. However, if it really isn’t relevant, perhaps they will get a phone call or be called into a meeting.” Well, that made sense to me. Obviously, this is not always the case, but it’s the general gist.
I have always been tuned into my intuition, or been psychic for want of a better word. I can even remember as a small child not feeling comfortable around certain people, or getting an anxious feeling about something. The older I got, the stronger it got, until I reached about 14 years of age when I was out with friends; I had a horrible feeling and then my friend got rushed to hospital with appendicitis.
Around this time, I joined a psychic development class. I never told anyone about this. It was like a secret life. By the age of 17, I was doing readings in the UK and became very well known. I also started to learn healing and began to live a totally different life from my friends. I appeared in leading magazines and became even more popular.
Now I dedicate my life to Reiki healing and teaching, amongst other healing modalities. Recently, I have felt the need to use my intuition along with my Universe Cards to spread the messages through Instagram. The coolest thing about this is I do not have a plan, nor do I choose cards before the sessions – I am completely led by the Universe. The minute the camera comes on and I go live, the words just flow. I just go with it and am thrilled when I quickly see comments from viewers letting me know that it resonates with them. I get deep into it, and then when I select the cards, almost every time they relate to what I have been talking about. This fascinates me. I like to end with a little meditation for everyone and again the Universe gives me the right words.
I get such a good feeling from the hearts I see going up on the screen! But seriously, I have dedicated 30 minutes each weekday at 12.00 pm to hopefully help boost your day, motivate you, give you a push to do things you have been wanting to do, and help you on your manifesting journey.
I have been asked by clients to create a # for after watching a live session #youvebeenjaned … let’s see 🙂
Please do tune in on any weekday for a message at 12.00 @miraclesdubai.
Are you in a parasocial relationship? Why we obsess over celebrities?
You scroll through their Instagram feed, reply to their tweets, watch their TikTok videos and defend them no matter what they do … Are you simply a fan or something a little more?
Parasocial relationships are one-sided bonds people develop with public and media figures such as actors, musicians, influencers or politicians, although the term can also be applied to peers. Unlike developing a crush, those indulging in parasocial relationships feel they are friends with the person – that they know them and know what they’re thinking and feeling.
For Mulaney, whose white, middle-class, male-skewing supporters see him as a comedy visionary and relatable everyman, the very fact their hero was being criticised for the speed of his new romance was tantamount to blasphemy.
“People usually get into a parasocial relationship by falling in love with celebrities, famous people, influencers or even fictional characters,” says Helen Najar, hypnotherapist and well-being counsellor at Miracles wellness centre in Dubai. “They create unrealistic ideas about a person and feel as if they are part of their life. They can also be physically attracted to them and feel emotionally attached, so begin to give the other party much interest, time, and emotional energy.
“This is commonly seen with fans of celebrities, as they truly believe they know the person rather than understanding that they only know the character being presented by the person.”
What is a parasocial relationship?
Parasocial relationships have been around for as long as humans but under different names and guises. Behaviours that previous generations would have termed as ardent admiration for someone, or even a long-distance crush, would almost certainly these days be deemed parasocial.
The term was first coined by sociologists Donald Horton and R Richard Wohl in their 1956 paper Mass Communication and Para-Social Interaction, in which they said: “The crucial difference in experience obviously lies in the effective lack of reciprocity … The interaction, characteristically, is one-sided, non-dialectical and controlled by the performer.”
In short: you can like a particular celebrity all you want, but they’re not going to like you back.
Najar says: “This form of ‘relationship’ can give the individual a sense of belonging and that they are part of a group who shares their emotional connection of love and admiration with the said celebrity [character], which in a way normalises the relationship.”
The tipping point into obsession
Despite living in times of peak oversharing online, most people understand the parameters of their parasocial relationships. They know that Justin Bieber isn’t going to leave Hailey for them because they slid into his DMs, nor will Sonam Kapoor Ahuja invite them round for coffee because they admired her living room decor on Instagram.
“As with all things, good and bad co-exist and this can be seen when parasocial relationships tip into obsession, and this obsession or idealization of a character can affect both adults and children,” says Najar. “In children, this can become dangerous if the child idolizes a character and aspires to be like them, for example a certain character or celebrity’s body type.
Enjoying a healthy parasocial relationship: ‘They help people feel more connected.’
Hypnotherapist Helen Najar and psychologist Mina Shafik say the unprecedented levels of access into celebrities’ lives that modern technology has given followers has blurred the lines between what fans know about a public person and what they think they know. Photos: Miracles Dubai; Thrive Wellbeing Centre
The spotlight being shone on parasocial relationships also coincides with the pandemic, which caused people to be confined to their homes, and media and content consumption go through the roof. Similarly stuck in their mansions, celebrities started offering even more insights into their lives, including their homes, pets, meals and daily schedules. All of which made a desire on the part of the fan to “know more” seem less intrusive.
“The expansion of social media means people have unlimited access to a variety of platforms, entertainment sites and celebrities,” says Najar, “making the ability to feel connected to these celebrities otherwise private lives more attainable and socially acceptable.”
I finally tried the Access Energetic Facelift and here’s what went down
…and skincare got spiritual
If 2020 had any silver lining, it’s that I collectively switched off of auto-pilot mode and became more in-tuned with our mind and spirit. I know it’s not just me because the number of self-care, self-love, and self-empowerment posts on Instagram these days seems to be at an all-time high.
When I heard about the Access Energetic Facelift, I had to give it a try. It’s getting rave reviews as the new treatment of choice for the mind, body, and soul in Bollywood *and* I, of course, get heart eyes for anything that contains the word “facelift”. I took a Careem down to Miracles Wellness Center and met with Jane Elizabeth, who is a transformational coach and energy healer. Jane explained that this treatment removes mental and emotional blockages, erases negative memory within our cells, rejuvenates the face, and restores our natural glow. Sounds amazing, amirite?
I kicked off my shoes, snuggled up with a warm blanket on the bed, and proceeded to be transformed. Jane used a combination of a reiki-style of hand movements and pressure point massage techniques to release my negative energy. She picked up on a lingering fear of uncertainty and fear of success and transmuted them from my psyche. #thanksjane
Access Energetic Facial costs Dhs500 for a 1-hour session at Miracles Wellness Center, Icon Tower, Barsha Heights.
‘My child used to run away from numbers, now he loves them’: UAE dad
Practical tips on helping cure your child of maths anxiety.
Of all the legacies you deign to give your child perhaps the most common – and least wanted – is a fear of mathematics.
As per an article published in ‘Harvard Business Review’, 93 % of Americans report experiencing some level of maths anxiety. As per a Programme for International Student Assessment in 2012, across the 34 participating Organisation for Economic Co-operation and Development (OECD) countries, 59 % of the 15- to 16-year-old students said they worry about the perceived difficulty of maths classes while 33 % said number-crunching homework stressed them out and 31 % admitted to feeling nervous when confronted by a maths problem.
Hiba Mehanna, Wellness Consultant and General Manager of Miracles Dubai, explains that the insecurities children face around maths can stem anywhere from societal and family pressures to perform well, to not being able to meet the set standards that peers can reach which can result in being teased by other kids in the school environment. “Children that have received poor maths grades in the past can develop an insecurity towards the subject due to a fear of repeated results, and this insecurity can create an inaccurate belief that they are simply ‘not good at maths’.”
Benjamin Atkins, Head of Secondary at The Aquila School, also says maths makes for an easy target. “People find it acceptable to publicly acknowledge that ‘I was not good at maths at school’ and ‘I don’t like maths’, but would never openly say the same about reading or other subjects. This gives many pupils a false view of what mathematics in secondary school could be like before they even attend their first class,” he explains.
How does anxiety work in kids?
Anxiety around a subject is a learned behaviour. Mehanna explains that in a child’s brain at a neuroscientific level, one can see that neural pathways are at their peak in forming strong connections. “These connections, if continuously used form a neural pattern that results in a future set behaviour. A perfect example is a child who goes to school and has a negative experience in the classroom, if this is a one-time event, the child will feel the negative emotion (shame, embarrassment, etc.). However, it will not form a strong neural pathway and over time it will begin to dissipate. However, if the same child is consistently facing a negative emotion when they are in the classroom, this will create a strong neural pathway that will result in anxiety whenever they’re put in a classroom setting as a child and even into adulthood.
If a child is consistently facing a negative emotion when they are in the classroom, this will create a strong neural pathway that will result in anxiety whenever they’re put in a classroom setting.
The physical impact
“Although anxiety shows up in children due to repeated neural connections, it can also manifest physically as a sore tummy, headache, fatigue and lack of motivation. These manifestations of anxiety can also be a result of what is known as the gut-brain axis, simply put; your food creates your mood. Children displaying anxiety may bite their nails, fidget, have fluctuating emotions and have a hard time trying to concentrate. Further to this, they may not want to participate in social events, have a change of eating habits and suffer from disrupted sleep.”
Now for the good news. This isn’t a permanent state of affairs. You can subtract the worry from the situation by simply adding in a few elements such as a more conducive learning environment. “The good news is, in terms of maths insecurity and belief of self, it is possible to be reversed depending on the teaching method. This is evident by some children performing better in maths when they feel more connected to the teacher and the learning style of the school. It is important that a child who displays an insecurity in math be nurtured and understood in their way of learning, because when this is lacking it can result in an insecurity in how they process learning.”
A different intelligence
This is exactly what Paramjith Singh found out. The Indian expat’s ten-year-old son was so afraid of numbers that he would run off every time he’d see one. Fortunately, his school counselor spoke to him and realised the problem wasn’t maths, it was an aversion to two-dimensional numbers – he could not understand what they meant. A visualisation technique, where cups and bowls, oranges and apples were used to help the child physically see the difference in digits allowed him to learn them; today, he likes the subject, says Singh.
Cooking can help kids with maths.
When it comes to teaching visualisation techniques, every activity can become a learning experience. “Other techniques at home could be to add mathematics into everyday activities – but especially cooking. Involving the child in a practical activity that focuses on weights and measure, but that can also look at ratio, is a great way to build family relationships and improve mathematics skills. Ask: ‘if we need 100g of flour for three people, how much do we need for six?’,” suggests Atkins.
Hareem Navaid, who teaches math and business at Dwight School Dubai, says it’s imperative to acknowledge the problem and then employ a few tried-and-tested strategies to overcome it.
“I teach my students stress management techniques. We do mindfulness exercises such as deep breathing, and meditation during mathematics lesson. These techniques help students to relax during any stressful situation,” he adds.
“The teacher should also make efforts in providing students the autonomy, competency and purpose for each learning objective to keep them motivated and engaged in learning,” he says.
In classrooms, one must also teach test-taking strategies, says Navaid. “Encourage them to solve the easiest questions first. To tackle the hard math word problem, students can draw the word problem to visualise the scenario.
“Encourage them to proactively break down large tasks into smaller more achievable and less stressful small tasks,” he adds.
And you can teach them tricks that will not only make the subject fun but easier to understand. Navaid offers the following hacks:
Multiplying with 99:Subtract 1 from the first double digit number. Then subtract that answer from 99. Then write both answers together. It will be the product of multiplying any doubt digit number with 99.
START THEM YOUNG
Here are some simple (and fun!) ways to start thinking and talking about maths skills with your little one.
Point to shapes
Talk with your child about the shapes you see around you. Maybe on your walk together you notice a round stone or a square sign. “Look, the door on that house is a red rectangle!” Introducing these basic spatial sense skills – the concepts of shape, size, space and direction – will help your child later on in school when they start geometry.
Count it out
Find some small objects – such as shells or beads – to count together out loud. “Look! We have one, two, three, four, five orange beads.” You can also separate them into groups. “Let’s make three piles of three buttons.” This is a great way to introduce the concepts of numbers and operations (addition, subtraction, multiplication and division). You don’t only need objects to learn how to count – you could also work on counting with your little one by counting out loud how many steps they take or how many times they clap their hands.
Play a sorting game
Recognising patterns and relationships lays the foundation for learning equations later in life. To introduce these concepts to your toddler in a playful way, try playing a sorting game with objects around your house. “Let’s put the red lentils in one basket and the green lentils in the other basket.” You can also lay the objects out in a pattern. “Let’s make a row of lentils: red, green, red, green.”
Have fun in the kitchen
Cooking together is a great opportunity for your child to explore measurement and counting. Make sure to give them age-appropriate tasks and to supervise them closely while you create your culinary masterpiece! Talk about how much rice you need for your meal and show them how you measure it out. If you’re making a snack, count out the food items on your plate: “There are one, two, three, four berries in our snack.”
Build a tower
Stacking objects helps young children to learn about estimating size and understanding the relationship between different sized objects. To make a tower together, you could use blocks, empty boxes, empty cartons or other child-safe objects you have around the house that will stack well. Talk about how the pieces fit on top of one another and if the tower falls, why that happened. See how high you can go!
Compare and contrast
Take notice of the sizes of objects you see in comparison to one another. A market or food store are great places to do this together. “This mango is much bigger than that one.” You can also ask your child to point out which item they think is smaller or larger. This helps your toddler to work on building those important spatial sense and measurement skills.
Source: Unicef Parenting
The homework
Parents play a vital role in curing – or infecting – kids with math anxiety. Here are some ways you can help says Navaid.
• Check your attitude: Parents’ own attitude towards the mathematics also impact the children’s approach towards mathematics. Parents should not communicate any negative feelings about mathematics to their children.
• Do your prep work: Encourage time management and organisational skills. Help them to plan and prepare for test in advance.
• One report card grade doesn’t define a child. Your children are more than a grade on a report card. Praise and appreciate the effort, not only the final grade on the report card. Communicate it to your children also. One test won’t make or break the rest of her/his academic life or career.
• Remind your children about their strengths. Build their confidence by affirmations that “you can prepare for it”, “you can do this” or saying, “let’s do it together”. It brings the parents much closer to children and help improve parent child relationship which will help with anxiety as well.
• Tell them, it is easy to improve mathematical skills. Give your children confidence that he/she can improve her math ability by practicing.
• Encourage children to write down emotions. Studies have shown that writing down negative emotions reduces the severity of those emotions.
• Encourage a healthy lifestyle. “Structured bed times allow for enough time for the brain to rest, nurtured learning environments to avoid negative feelings that can result in fixed neural connections, and a healthy diet to feed the gut the vitamins and minerals essential to nourish the brain and its electrical output which we understand as emotions. In doing so not only can you reduce the level of anxiety displayed in a child but, you can also help them to build healthier fixed neural connections that will benefit them all the way into adulthood,” adds Mehanna.
The Ancient Practice of Grounding
I love to recommend this ancient tool to all my clients. It doesn’t take a healer or a yogi to know how good it feels to walk barefoot on grass or on the beach, feeling the warmth of the sun touching your skin. In these moments, you are ‘grounded’. Grounding is an ancient activity that spreads through various cultures, traditions and spiritual practices over hundreds of years. It is simply reconnecting our energies with the Earth. For the majority of history, we have had direct contact with the earth’s surface, but somewhere along the way, we have lost that sustained connection due to the modern world of technology, high rise buildings, and even shoes with insulated synthetic soles. And a constant influx of
electromagnetic radiation (EMF) from our devices takes us further away.
Grounding isn’t a new discovery, but a rediscovery of what our ancestors knew would help them to heal. And it is still accessible to us. When we allow our body to connect with the Earth, we enhance our mental, physical, and emotional wellbeing and create a more sound, clear way of thinking. Vitality, health, and wellness are benefits of allowing yourself to be grounded with the Earth. It’s a great exercise, and best of all it’s free!
Benefits:
- Calms nervous system
- Protects from electromagnetic fields (EMFs)
- Eases chronic pain and inflammation
- Balances emotions, reduces stress and anxiety, boosts energy
- Improves mental clarity and ability to make decisions
How to do Grounding:
- Take off your shoes and walk on grass
- Lie your entire body down in the grass—touching as much of your bare skin to the
ground as possible - Go to the beach and walk in the sand barefoot – Salt (water) is very grounding and the waves have a very strong cleansing and replenishing energy.
- The next time you’re trekking along a cobblestone street, remember that the uneven terrain is actually a boon to your fitness. The uneven surfaces of stone paths are commonly used for wellness as “reflexology paths,” although you can get the same beneficial effects from any uneven stone pathway.
- Put your feet in a freshwater stream and turn your face towards the sun.
- Enjoy gardening, feeling the soil on your hands.
- Breathe in deeply when you are in nature, and follow your breath as it travels into your nostrils and lungs and back out.
- Spend at least 15-minutes in direct physical contact with nature, sit with your back against a tree.
- Have a salt bath, a mixture of sea salts, Epsom salts and Himalayan salts are a great combo. Add essential oils such as patchouli (be sure to dilute them with a carrier oil first). You can also add grounding crystals to your bath and fresh herbs instead of essential oils such as sage.
Join Delna to learn the practice of grounding.
Space Clearing
The world has spent more time than ever at home in these past two years, and there isn’t a more important time to do space clearing, to keep your home energy flowing, clean and fresh.
The practice of space clearing has its roots in many ancient cultures such as Middle Eastern, African, Native American and Asian. Native Americans used herbs like sage and cedar to smudge their spaces, as they believed that the smoke from these herbs pulls in the negative
energies. These energies then dissipate with the smoke, leaving the space clean and clear to welcome good energies amongst them.
Salt has been used in Middle Eastern and Asian cultures to cleanse space. In Northern Indian and Tibetan tradition, Himalayan Salt is often mixed with the queen of spices – saffron to ward away evil and negative entities. In Peru, the sacred Despacho ceremony is performed to restore peaceful energies between people, nature and other spirits. Other cultures use prayer, chants or mantras, or apply the principles of Feng Shui, Vaastu to ensure a deep clearing of any negative energies or blocks to success. Whichever method is used across the
world and through centuries, it is commonly believed that clearing your space of pre- existing energy and filling them with new, positive energy is necessary for a life of ease and joy.
So while the practice is age-old, the reason is relevant even today: just as we see dust and clutter accumulating in our homes on a physical level, the same happens on an energetic level too. It’s just that we cannot always see it energetically. The phrase ‘you can cut the tension in the air with a knife probably comes from where the energy is so intense, that one can sense it. These intense energies create a build-up and
blockage. Arguments, grief, illnesses all add to a negative energetic build-up and our home spirals into a lower vibration, as the ‘flow’ of energy is blocked. Just as we need to clean our homes, redecorate, clear garbage, the same is true energetically.
What is Space Clearing:
Space clearing is basically the ritual of clearing the space of your home, on an energetic level. I use a crystal pendulum and specific charts to identify the heavy energies in your home. I help to identify the location of the abundance, power, health and heart spots in your home and clear any blockages. The energetic clearing brings a light and airy flow back into your space. You may have noticed that the more time you spend at home, the more housework you need to do to keep it looking and feeling fresh. Similarly, any energetic or emotional build-up too requires clearing.
To put it simply, unless you space clear regularly, you will be living amongst unwanted frequencies of your past. The imprint of all those arguments, feelings of anxiety, stress, grief… are held in those walls of your home, making it harder to recover completely. Of course, it is equally important to remove physical clutter, as they represent layers of stagnant energy in your home. Space clearing brings in new, higher frequencies that help you to move forward.
And that is why space clearing has become so important, especially in the intense times that we are living in right now. It is recommended that a space clearing session should be done at your home at least once a year. And even more often if a family member has experienced a troubled situation, illness, loss etc. Even if you have just moved into a new house, it is important to clear the residual energies of the previous occupant.
If the energies in your house are particularly intense, don’t hesitate to call a trusted professional space clearing expert to help.
I am a space clearing healer. Using a crystal pendulum, charts and Tibetan Singing Bowls, I energetically clears space, even remotely (without the sound bowls in this case). With the help of a pendulum, I am able to detect the imbalances in the various areas of your home and clear them, thus allowing the energies to align, restoring a sense of balance, peace, harmony, abundance, good health, love, laughter and prosperity.
Join Delna for professional space clearing
Building Your Muscle of Intuition
Has this ever happened to you that you’ve felt this huge hunch that something is about to happen, and then it actually does? Or sometimes you think of calling someone, and then that person calls you? So when you feel strongly about something without any solid logical to it, that’s called intuition.
It comes in three impressions
- Clairvoyance or “the third eye” , sensing clearly and feeling through listening. Clairvoyance is when your eye goes beyond what it can see. This is when you know what is happening somewhere. Sensing clearly is basically what we refer to as “hunch” or “gut feel” This is the time when you are overwhelmed with a feeling and you can’t explain it and all you can say is “I just know”.
- Clairaudience is feeling through listening, and being able to “listen” between the lines. Intuition also happens at times when a certain sound, whatever it is – be it a car’s honk or a bird’s twitting – ushers in an intense feeling.
- Clairsentient is commonly defined as a “clear feeling”, the ability to feel the past, the present, and the future emotional state of other people, even without using any of the five senses- sight, smell, hearing, tasting, or touching. It is also referred to as the sense of intuition because people who also have clairsentient abilities can gather information from non-living materials such as buildings or outside areas also without the use of the five senses.
It has been said that only a few people are truly gifted with intuition. In the past, people with intuitive abilities were labelled as witches and sorcerers and weren’t trusted. But in today’s times, more and more people are aware of the gift of intuitiveness and studies have proclaim that anyone can develop intuition. And especially in these troubled times, where people are dealing with so much stress and anxiety, being able to tap into your intuition is a gift.
Intuition promotes good communication. It makes you more sensitive to the people around you; it often keeps you from hurting those you love because you are intuitive enough to understand them. Intuition also makes you far more creative than ever. Intuition means releasing more creative juices for any means of expression. Lastly, intuition has a healing power. This healing power is not in the physical sense, but in delving deep into your soul to eradicate some negative energy buried in it.
With that being said, are you ready to develop your intuition? Here are some ways to unlock this gift:
1. Hypnosis
For those who don’t know, a session of hypnotherapy is not like what you’d see in films. It is in fact a deeply meditative process. We work with that level of mind which you have when you are about to fall asleep or waking up. You can hear people in the background, but are still too rested to move your body or talk back.
2. Meditation
Meditating means finding peace in yourself. If your mind and heart are cluttered with too many baggage and hurt, you wouldn’t be able to quiet down that part of you that could eventually initiate intuition. There are so many ways to meditate: take a yoga class, or just simply practice some breathing that could bring you straight to Zen.
3. Use your thoughts to create a better outcome.
A worry-free, fear-free state could do so much to improve your intuitive ability. By using your imagination to stay positive, you attract a high vibration which is the best frequency to manifest your desired outcomes.
4. Silence.
Simply put – if you are on the brink of making a huge decision, let go of all the mental chitter chatter and head to a quiet place. Sometimes you just have to quieten down and listen to the voice within you.
5. Never expect.
After quietening down, just release all expectations for an immediate solution. Anxiety puts you
back in a low vibration, so give it time, and trust that you will be given a sign.
6. Trust your first impressions.
Sometimes you enter a room and feel heavy, or you meet a person and do not get a very positive vibe, trust that feeling. Chances are that impression actually holds true. Most of the time, first impressions are brought by intuition. Play around with this, test it out with smaller situations in life and build your intuitive muscle.
7. Stay happy!
It always boils down to this – all you need to be intuitive is to stay happy! Happiness attracts immense power and such power includes intuition. Of course, don’t mask your feeling of grief or fear. You must feel to heal. Acknowledge your feelings, and continuously move to a higher vibration.
Intuition is helpful, because sometimes it leads you to something that cannot be achieved otherwise. Decisions that you can’t make using logic or people you should avoid, situations you can skip – all this becomes second nature when you develop your intuitive abilities.
Start working on it and enjoy the journey!
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