
Are you in a parasocial relationship? Why we obsess over celebrities?
You scroll through their Instagram feed, reply to their tweets, watch their TikTok videos and defend them no matter what they do … Are you simply a fan or something a little more?
Parasocial relationships are one-sided bonds people develop with public and media figures such as actors, musicians, influencers or politicians, although the term can also be applied to peers. Unlike developing a crush, those indulging in parasocial relationships feel they are friends with the person – that they know them and know what they’re thinking and feeling.
For Mulaney, whose white, middle-class, male-skewing supporters see him as a comedy visionary and relatable everyman, the very fact their hero was being criticised for the speed of his new romance was tantamount to blasphemy.
“People usually get into a parasocial relationship by falling in love with celebrities, famous people, influencers or even fictional characters,” says Helen Najar, hypnotherapist and well-being counsellor at Miracles wellness centre in Dubai. “They create unrealistic ideas about a person and feel as if they are part of their life. They can also be physically attracted to them and feel emotionally attached, so begin to give the other party much interest, time, and emotional energy.
“This is commonly seen with fans of celebrities, as they truly believe they know the person rather than understanding that they only know the character being presented by the person.”
What is a parasocial relationship?
Parasocial relationships have been around for as long as humans but under different names and guises. Behaviours that previous generations would have termed as ardent admiration for someone, or even a long-distance crush, would almost certainly these days be deemed parasocial.
The term was first coined by sociologists Donald Horton and R Richard Wohl in their 1956 paper Mass Communication and Para-Social Interaction, in which they said: “The crucial difference in experience obviously lies in the effective lack of reciprocity … The interaction, characteristically, is one-sided, non-dialectical and controlled by the performer.”
In short: you can like a particular celebrity all you want, but they’re not going to like you back.
Najar says: “This form of ‘relationship’ can give the individual a sense of belonging and that they are part of a group who shares their emotional connection of love and admiration with the said celebrity [character], which in a way normalises the relationship.”
The tipping point into obsession
Despite living in times of peak oversharing online, most people understand the parameters of their parasocial relationships. They know that Justin Bieber isn’t going to leave Hailey for them because they slid into his DMs, nor will Sonam Kapoor Ahuja invite them round for coffee because they admired her living room decor on Instagram.
“As with all things, good and bad co-exist and this can be seen when parasocial relationships tip into obsession, and this obsession or idealization of a character can affect both adults and children,” says Najar. “In children, this can become dangerous if the child idolizes a character and aspires to be like them, for example a certain character or celebrity’s body type.
Enjoying a healthy parasocial relationship: ‘They help people feel more connected.’
Hypnotherapist Helen Najar and psychologist Mina Shafik say the unprecedented levels of access into celebrities’ lives that modern technology has given followers has blurred the lines between what fans know about a public person and what they think they know. Photos: Miracles Dubai; Thrive Wellbeing Centre
The spotlight being shone on parasocial relationships also coincides with the pandemic, which caused people to be confined to their homes, and media and content consumption go through the roof. Similarly stuck in their mansions, celebrities started offering even more insights into their lives, including their homes, pets, meals and daily schedules. All of which made a desire on the part of the fan to “know more” seem less intrusive.
“The expansion of social media means people have unlimited access to a variety of platforms, entertainment sites and celebrities,” says Najar, “making the ability to feel connected to these celebrities otherwise private lives more attainable and socially acceptable.”

The Ancient Practice of Grounding
I love to recommend this ancient tool to all my clients. It doesn’t take a healer or a yogi to know how good it feels to walk barefoot on grass or on the beach, feeling the warmth of the sun touching your skin. In these moments, you are ‘grounded’. Grounding is an ancient activity that spreads through various cultures, traditions and spiritual practices over hundreds of years. It is simply reconnecting our energies with the Earth. For the majority of history, we have had direct contact with the earth’s surface, but somewhere along the way, we have lost that sustained connection due to the modern world of technology, high rise buildings, and even shoes with insulated synthetic soles. And a constant influx of
electromagnetic radiation (EMF) from our devices takes us further away.
Grounding isn’t a new discovery, but a rediscovery of what our ancestors knew would help them to heal. And it is still accessible to us. When we allow our body to connect with the Earth, we enhance our mental, physical, and emotional wellbeing and create a more sound, clear way of thinking. Vitality, health, and wellness are benefits of allowing yourself to be grounded with the Earth. It’s a great exercise, and best of all it’s free!
Benefits:
- Calms nervous system
- Protects from electromagnetic fields (EMFs)
- Eases chronic pain and inflammation
- Balances emotions, reduces stress and anxiety, boosts energy
- Improves mental clarity and ability to make decisions
How to do Grounding:
- Take off your shoes and walk on grass
- Lie your entire body down in the grass—touching as much of your bare skin to the
ground as possible - Go to the beach and walk in the sand barefoot – Salt (water) is very grounding and the waves have a very strong cleansing and replenishing energy.
- The next time you’re trekking along a cobblestone street, remember that the uneven terrain is actually a boon to your fitness. The uneven surfaces of stone paths are commonly used for wellness as “reflexology paths,” although you can get the same beneficial effects from any uneven stone pathway.
- Put your feet in a freshwater stream and turn your face towards the sun.
- Enjoy gardening, feeling the soil on your hands.
- Breathe in deeply when you are in nature, and follow your breath as it travels into your nostrils and lungs and back out.
- Spend at least 15-minutes in direct physical contact with nature, sit with your back against a tree.
- Have a salt bath, a mixture of sea salts, Epsom salts and Himalayan salts are a great combo. Add essential oils such as patchouli (be sure to dilute them with a carrier oil first). You can also add grounding crystals to your bath and fresh herbs instead of essential oils such as sage.
Join Delna to learn the practice of grounding.

Patience, Tolerance & Understanding
We live in a world where we believe we need to be right, correct, and perfect. We have this idea of how we want to be perceived by people and this gives us a sense of security. When we face situations that don’t align with that idea in our head, we tend to become angry, triggered, upset, we feel like we are losing control of the situation and start behaving in ways that are quite the opposite (without even realizing).
It’s like a switch flips within us and we start imposing our beliefs and thoughts to regain control. When this doesn’t work, things escalate, and we feel a sense of hurt and defeat as we get locked in that vicious cycle.
Let’s take a step back. Take a deep breath and look at what is really going on here.
The first question to ask is why do I need to be so perfect? What am I insecure about? What is this ‘trigger’? Is it even possible to be perfect or is it something we are conditioned to believe so we are loved and accepted?
Most of these triggers come from our childhood, where we were told to behave or excel and then we were loved and praised (i.e. false sense of security). Anything opposite that your mind reads as unloved and criticized (i.e. false sense of insecurity).
The root cause is deep feelings of insecurity and then a loss of control. It’s time to heal that inner child in you. It’s time to love him/her and give that child in you the understanding, patience and tolerance he/she requires. It’s alright, you are always doing the best you can. It’s not about being perfect. It’s about being human and being human means experiencing everything and not identifying it as who you are.
Of Course, you are loved! Of Course, you matter! and of course, you are fully capable of having all that you desire, because that’s who you are. Anything else is not you. It’s just how you see yourself and maybe now is the time to change that.
The Overview:
- Taking a step back and looking at the whole picture brings back a sense of control, if I lack understanding I lose my patience and in turn have no tolerance. I end up getting upset and act at an impulse, the repercussion of which are clearly not healthy in the long run.
- Why am I scared of being judged?
- Why do I get so aggressive & provoked? – loss of control
- Why am I trying to please people?
- PUT (Patience, Understanding & Tolerance) perspectives for a happy life
By: Rashmi Seth

Meditation: An Inward Journey
All that is acquired to break through a reality that we have come to be acquainted with is already within, and consciously willing to take that step is what meditation is all about.
It’s not a matter of knowing or not knowing, we know and we confirm that “everything is within” Often when we encounter it in a conversation, or in an article; we nod our head as a sign of approval. But knowing without understanding and finally without consciously practicing is not any different than not knowing.
The dilemma yet to surface, if all that is needed is within and often we affirm that and pass over it lightly in any given text, what is it that won’t allow us to pursuit or practice that paradigm?
Within dwells all the open pages, all that we have buried so deep, and the projection for that has become our outmost present self, that lingers in the past and the future but rarely in the present, once it comes to experience present overwhelmed with all that is to surface it seeks refuge back to where it attains comfort and that is anywhere but present.
To tap in within, is first to encounter Our so called present, defensive self, that we cling on too defensively and in a protective manner, ready to take defensive stand at any given time. To see a self as to be just an outcome of causality, a learned process where at some point we have allowed others to contribute to its growth and determine our life long trajectory and predictable patterns.
As we adhere deeper within, a threatened self that foresees the end of its service, tries to victimize us by taking us through a journey using guilt as its vehicle, the sum of all the voices, sometimes greater than the whole itself. Persuading us to acknowledge that same self that operates within us, has led us here where we are, we are pretty content, for it has brought us to where we are now, so why bother to question it. A self that has no concrete grounding, but a root of chords attached to situations and individuals that not only predict outcome, but also trigger a certain behavioural response, where a mind that has created a problem tries to solve the problem.
Hence a self to hold on to the intellect to come to break through the reasoning by reasoning itself, and here to finally encounter the illusion of fear disguised as fear itself. For the sole catalyst in the first place has been feared that has contributed in the conditioning of pattern that has constructed this untrue self.
As we let go of these conditioned patterns that no longer serve any purpose, we encounter not fear but an illusion of fear, for our mind had been conditioned to growth and evolve by fear instinct rather than love.
To discover love within is to overcome fear. There’s no journey through the self, but a journey towards the self, only to find a selfless self. For one holds so strong to whatever one is afraid of losing, and thus when there is absence of fear, one never holds on to a self for the self is everywhere, as though projects, energy follows in an infinite abundance, those who evolve through love never limit a self to a situation or an outcome.
A self finally comes to no longer practice meditation, but is always in a meditative state, is always present.
Our journey through the mind of the self is only to discover the heart of the self, our journey from seeing to believe only to realize that we need to believe to see.

Healing with Spiritual Response Therapy
Spiritual Response Therapy is a magnificent method used to heal a variety of issues ranging from anxiety, unhealthy relationship patterns, blocks to abundance and prosperity and disturbing health concerns. It works by researching and clearing programs in an individual at a core (beliefs from this lifetime), ancestral (beliefs passed down from generations), history (unhealthy beliefs from past lives), and soul level.
It is a method born from using a combination of hypnotherapy (dowsing method) and response therapy (identifying and clearing subconscious fears). It was created by a unity minister named Robert Detzler in the late 1980’s, who integrated his spiritual understanding with response therapy and discovered a powerful method that can clear challenges for individuals at a mental, emotional, physical level and spiritual level.
In SRT, we use a series of charts and a pendulum to research and clear programs and negative energies held in the Akashic Records. We identify the root cause of the issues, research their origin and go ahead and clear the unresolved emotional energy, reprogramming the soul and the subconscious to experience life with greater ease and positivity.
As an SRT Consultant, I have worked with SRT to help many clients in successfully clearing suppressed resentment, anxiety, depression, sexual abuse, narcissism, unhappy relationship patterns, low self-worth, confusion towards life purpose and self-limiting beliefs towards abundance, to name a few. The transformation in their behavior within a few sessions has been astonishing. Not only do the discordant thoughts forms they were holding on to no longer disturb them, but by sharing insights into how these behaviors came about in their lives, my clients have empowered themselves on many levels as well. They have become more mindful of their thoughts, enjoy the beats of life with a lot more ease and grace and move forward confidently towards their goals and aspirations. Hence, they attract more positive outcomes in their life as they come to understand that their subconscious and conscious mind need to work harmoniously together in order to attract the abundance they so desire!
Spiritual Response Therapy has transformed my life in many ways than one and aligned me to my life-purpose where I use my intuitive gifts and talents to serve humanity. And I now offer this gift to everyone by holding sessions at Miracles so that you all can enjoy abundance and most importantly come to reconnect with their Higher Self and become magnificent co-creators who bring forth divine blessings in this world.

The Telltale Signs Your Chakras Are Out of Balance
We have 7 main energy centers in our body known as chakras. These are multi-colored powerhouses of energy located in different points of our body. Each chakra correlates to specific emotional, physical and mental ailments that we may experience. When one or more of these chakras go out of balance, we may encounter certain emotional or physical symptoms.
Clearing your energy and balancing your chakras can increase your vibration and bring in a healthy emotional and physical body. Here are some insights on how to know if your chakras are out of balance and what you can do bring them back into balance.
Root Chakra – This chakr
a or energy point is located at the base of your spine, at your tailbone and represents feelings of safety and security.
If your Root chakra is out of balance you may experience physical symptoms such as cold hands and feet, problems with your hips, legs, knees and feet, digestion problems and even arthritis.
Emotionally, if this chakra is out of balance you may feel fear or worry regarding money, security and basic survival needs such as food and shelter. This chakra focuses on material possessions. Issues such as paranoia, fear and defensiveness may also manifest when this chakra is out of balance.
When this chakra is perfectly balanced, you feel connected, safe and grounded.
Sacral Chakra – Located
two inches below your navel, the sacral chakra correlates with creativity, sex and your ability to accept situations.
Physical imbalances in this chakra may result in menstrual and hormonal problems, lower back pain, kidney, sexual and reproductive issues.
Emotional imbalances include, inability to seek pleasure from life and sex, suppression of emotions, lack of passion, creativity, joy and obsessive behaviour and guilt.
When this chakra is balanced, we feel passionate, outgoing, have courage to take risks and are able to freely express our emotions. A balanced sacral chakra also creates a sense of connection with others.
Solar Plexus – This chakra is
located three inches above the naval and represents feelings of confidence, as well as acceptance towards ourselves and others.
Some physical ailments related to this chakra include: gallstones, liver and pancreatic disease, diabetes, colon problems and high blood pressure.
Emotional problems such as low self-esteem, lack of personal power, fear of rejection and criticism, lack of direction may manifest if this chakra is out of balance
When this chakra is balanced we feel: confident, have compassion for self and others, calm, a sense of acceptance, joyful etc. This chakra is your emotional control panel.
Heart Chakra – The heart
chakra is located at the heart and is associated with unconditional love, and compassion.
Physically, symptoms may show up as asthma, heart problems, lung diseases, breast issues, upper back and shoulder problems.
Emotionally, if this chakra is blocked you may feel anger, jealousy, inability to love, detached, unforgiving, fear of commitment and loneliness.
If perfectly balanced you may feel compassionate, joyful, forgiving and can easily give and receive love.
Throat Chakra – This chakra
located at the throat is responsible for communication and expression.
Physical imbalances include thyroid problems, throat and ear issues, jaw pain, sinuses, neck and shoulder pain.
Emotional problems include issues with self-expression and communication, creative blocks, anxiety and fear.
When perfectly balanced, you are honest and truthful; you can express yourself easily and effortlessly. You find ease in speaking up and being heard.
Third Eye Chakra – is locat
ed right between your eyebrows, in the center of your forehead and is related to intuition, psychic abilities and thoughts.
Physical imbalances include eye and ear problems, hair and scalp issues, headaches and migraines, neurological personality disorders and hallucinations.
When this chakra goes out of balance we feel rigid, moody, and closed off to new ideas and views.
Clearing the energy of this chakra promotes clarity, enhances our spiritual connection and psychic abilities, and we become open to wisdom and guidance.
Crown chakra – Located a
t the top of your head or crown of the head, this chakra is associated with spirituality and divine wisdom.
When out of balance we may experience physical ailments such as depression, light sensitivity, headaches, dementia and neurological disorders.
Emotionally if this chakra is out of balance we may feel incomplete, have lack of direction and purpose along with constant confusion. If the crown chakra is blocked, it can affect the other six chakras as well.
When in balance we start living mindfully, start trusting our inner guidance and are in the flow of life. We also develop a deep relationship with ourselves, and the spiritual world.
An effective way to balance our chakras is by healing our chakras through energy healing techniques and crystals. Crystals resonate with our energy centers and help enhance the vibrational frequency of the chakras. Meditation and aromatherapy are also a great way to balance our chakras.
It is important for us to take action and change our lives.
At Miracles, we provide chakra balancing through reiki, crystal therapy and other modalities to help empower you and bring inner happiness. Call us at 043639307 if you have any questions.

Crystal Healing for Your Home
Crystals have been known for centuries to have healing properties and benefits. Various crystals are used for different ailments, imbalances, and remedies for the mind, body, and soul.
Home is where the heart is – having said that it is very important to ensure that the energies in our home are balanced, positive and harmonious and its inhabitants are healthy and happy. Crystals can ensure that children sleep better, harmony in the marriage, good health and happiness and so much more.
Here are some suggestions on how crystals can be used at home.
Silent Noisy Neighbors with Moonstone
You may be amazed at what crystals can do in even the most difficult situations. Hold a moonstone in your hand and ask it to silence unwanted noise or disturbance. Place the stone outside your house by your neighbors’ boundary, let it rest on the edge or bury it in the earth next to the partition. If you are in an apartment, place the crystal next to the adjoining wall and the noise will slowly start to lessen and stop completely. On a full moon, bathe the crystal in the moonlight and repeat 3 times, requesting for peace and calm in the house.
Alternative Crystals that can be used are: Sugilite, Snowflake Obsidian, Chrysoprase.
Create and Protect Your Boundaries with Agate
Agate works as a brilliant security guard for your home. Whether you call upon Agate’s powers for protection or to keep away unwanted visitors, agate is known to keep boundaries intact. It’s a grounding stone that creates a sense of safety and security. You can place an Agate at the boundary of your apartment, or if you live in a home you can bury it in the earth surrounding your home or on either side of your door. This will bring a sense of stability and calm within the home.
Alternative Crystals that can be used are: Hematite, Black Jet, Smokey Quartz
Increasing Luck and Good Fortune with Jade
Jade is a stone of prosperity, luck and draws money and good things into your life. Jade bestows tranquility and provides a sense of wellbeing that welcomes people and positivity into your home. It is also a protective stone so will act as a deterrent to burglars or unwanted visitors. This stone can be placed in the mailbox to receive good news, by the entrance or in the center of your home.
Harmonizing the Hallway with Black Obsidian
Black Obsidian has a beautiful way of deflecting any negative or mixed emotions that people may bring in with them when they walk into your home. Place a Black Obsidian (rough, raw or tumbled) in your hallway or by the front door. Please keep in mind that poor lighting and clutter can inhibit your crystal’s abilities, so it is suggested to keep your hall’s surfaces clear and the whole space bright.
Alternative Crystals that can be used are: Citrine, Clear Topaz, Brown Jasper
Stimulating Dead Energy with Clear Quartz
Clear Quartz is a crystal that can increase energy or transmute any negative influences and can be easily programmed to suit your needs. You can lighten up the energy of your home by placing this crystal on the sides of the stairs or under banisters to have the energy moving in your space or anywhere you feel the energy needs to be stimulated.
Love in the Home with Rose Quartz
You can place a Rose Quartz anywhere in your home where you would to encourage and create more loving energy. A great way to cleanse using Rose quartz is to soak in a spray bottle filled with water for at least 24-hours and then spray the water all over the house. Set the intention for the water to cleanse and harmonize the energies. Can be used on bed covers, around doors, and after any upsets or disruptions.
Alternative Crystals that can be used are: Ruby
Revive House Plants with Green Tourmaline
Green Tourmaline is directly connected to the element Earth. It is a beautiful grounding stone and can be used for plants in the home. Bury the plant in the soil in the plant pot and notice how the plant comes back to life. Set the intention for the plants to be healed and revived. Ensure you pull out any dead leaves and give the plant sufficient water. Cleanse the Green Tourmaline regularly and place back in the pot till the plant is healthy again.
You can also prolong cut flowers by putting clear or smokey quartz in the water. You can use tumbles or a wand that is placed facing upwards.
Alternative Crystals that can be used are: Green Aventurine, Clear Quartz, Turquoise
Improving Study Habits with Gold Calcite
Gold Calcite is an incredible mind boosting crystal. It is great for mental empowerment and may amplify children’s efforts towards academic success. It is known to help with focus, concentration, and creativity, this will enable them to do well in projects, assignments, and tests. Place a Gold Calcite on the study table or anywhere where homework/schoolwork is done. It will help keep the mind alert and also improve memory.
Alternative Crystals that can be used are: Flourite, Howlite, Lapis Lazuli
Allow yourself to open up to the healing powers of crystals – meditate, put them in your bath, place them by your bedside or wear them as jewelry, have fun and enjoy the energies of your home.